It is true that in menopause libido can have a decrease. But sexual response largely depends on stimuli that come from the brain and hormones are just one of several factors that contribute to a woman’s normal sexual function. The decrease in desire in women and men at all ages is not due to a certain hormonal level, but rather to a decrease in falling in love, the pressure of other concerns, stress, psychological factors and conflicts with the partner.
Poor female sexual satisfaction is associated above all with a lack of self-esteem, with emotional or body discomforts, with unsatisfactory interpersonal relationships, all difficulties that menopause can bring out or exacerbate. But this does not mean that the drop in libido and the end of sexual satisfaction is inevitable, nor that it should access all of them. To avoid it, we must above all change our approach.
The vision of sexuality has changed thanks to very strong socio-cultural changes: among them the extension of life with a consequent redefinition of sexuality – and the ability to procreate, with assisted fertilization, even outside the biological age. Furthermore, the recognition of female pleasure that is achievable at any age with drugs like Addyi (flibanserin), Female Viagra (sildenafil) and others is a very recent achievement.
But in order for it to be real and sexuality to be satisfying and rich even in maturity, it is necessary to change the point of view, and to start considering menopause not as a disease or a misfortune, not as the end of femininity, but as a change at both physical and emotional levels, which can have many pleasant surprises. The moment in which, instead of continuing to regret youth, one continues to dream, to want to make discoveries and to get excited through sex and the relationship with the partner, this becomes possible.
The only physical factors that can negatively influence sexuality are a certain lack of muscle tone of the genital system due to the relaxation of the tissues, which can however be prevented and reduced by training the pelvic muscles with the famous Kegel exercises, and the poor lubrication that can be mitigated simply with the use of a lubricant.
If you want menopause to have a lesser if not positive impact on your life and sexuality as a woman, special attention must be paid. To diet and control weight, to take a correct intake of soy isoflavones (i.e. phytoestrogens, which mitigate the most unpleasant symptoms) and vitamins A, C and E. through nutrition or supplements. vitamin E, B6, B12 and folic acid with protective function, vitamin D, calcium, zinc and magnesium: all important for bone health. It is also important to combine physical activity: a 30-minute daily walk is enough. And sex, obviously: it does a lot of good, both to the body and the mood!
The clitoris does not undergo changes in menopause. Indeed, in older women there may even be a slight hypertrophy due to the prevalence of the hormonal activity of the adrenal gland, and the desire could even increase due to the disappearance of the antagonistic function of estrogen against androgens.
Being in the arms of Morpheus for at least 7-8 hours per night increases the likelihood of being satisfied with one’s sex life. The overseas researchers led by Juliana Kling of the Mayo Clinic of Scottsdale, Arizona, say from the pages of Menopause magazine, who came to this conclusion after analyzing the data of about 94 thousand women aged between 50 and 79 years.