Q: We have been married for 8 years already and it was all fine until now. It’s not that my wife has lost her beauty or forms, but I just don’t want her. I worry so much because I can already see changes in our relations. I’m afraid that we can lose our family because of the lack of sex. Please, help me find the reason!
A: Thanks for sharing such an intimate problem. It’s quite rare that men ask for advice concerning their sexual life. Well, let’s get down to your question. There are several possible causes of you losing sexual interest in your wife. In case you have not only arousal problems but also issues with getting an erection, then low testosterone levels may be to blame. In this case, you have to try to lose some extra pounds (if you are overweight) and add some testosterone production stimulating foods to your ration (e.g. tuna, beef, chili pepper, beans, ginger) or turn to testosterone therapy or use some ED pills (Viagra, Cialis and so on).
There’s also a possibility of psychological issues that make you avoid sex with your wife. Maybe your sex life just got boring after all this time being married? Try to bring new flavors and experiences to your bed. Experiment with sex toys, role-playing, the spectrum of things you can try in bed is huge. Another problem that may cause such a reaction is an unresolved conflict or offense. The inner psychological barrier is built then, and your sexual desire gets down.
Stress and tiredness also matter much for the way your libido works. Excessive workload or frequent stressful situations can reduce your desire to have sex. It is connected with the production of cortisol – a stress hormone, which also lowers sexual function. Try to avoid stress and have more time for rest, and it is very likely that your sexual life will get much better.